Have you ever been in a situation where someone shares a deeply emotional, vulnerable experience and you haven’t known how to respond? That it feels impossible to find the “right” words to say?
Witnessing anyone share about their pain can affect all of us, especially when it is someone who has been sexually assaulted. Not knowing what to say or how to say it is often what holds us back from being able to truly support the other person and what they are going through.
While it may seem overwhelming in the moment of a vulnerable conversation, there is a tremendous opportunity to bring support to the survivor in ways that are empowering, and a beautiful experience for you both.
Through my own healing journey and helping other survivors and their families, I have identified Four Keys Principles in having a positive experience when someone is telling you about their sexual abuse.
The 4 Key Principles are:
Below is a brief expansion of the first key principle.
Key Principle 1: how to respond
The following comes from Emily Nagoski, researcher and expert on women’s sexual wellbeing, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment. She is the award-winning author of Come as You Are.
Below are four sentences she offers to use.
A fifth one that I have adopted is: “What would feel most loving from me in this moment?”
These statements are beautiful to hear as a survivor. Many of us feel shame and embarrassment, and often times we agonize whether we decide to tell someone or not.
No matter how challenging a conversation can be, there is potential for it to be one that is beautiful, transformative, and healing.
Watch this powerful video and learn:
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