All of life is connection and communication and most of us struggle with doing this effectively.
Most of us fumble in conversations and cant come up with win/win situations and learning how to switch this is so important. If we always feel like we are not being heard, like our ideas and contributions don’t matter or we feel more disconnected from the person than before we started the conversation – we eventually bit our tongues or isolate ourselves from genuine connection.
We think that in order to be in a relationship (romantically or professionally) we have to compromise.
But this is not the case – we do not have to go through life feeling like we are constantly sacrificing or even worse…feel confused and disconnected in the conversations.
So here are a few powerful and applicable relationship styles and communication techniques you can start playing with to help you lessen the compromise in your life and boost the collaboration.
1. Shifting your Perspectives
The First-person perspective = my perception of myself. Me as me. How I see the world through my unique experiences. The things I love, value, defend and need.
Second Person Perspective = me observing another person’s experience and embodying that. Really listening, asking questions and becoming so familiar with their perspective that it feels like my own and I can see, understand, appreciate and relate to it.
Third Person Perspective = watching, observing, and studying two other people in their own situation and offering the missing links and creating bridges for them.
2. Become a pro at understanding others
This makes you invaluable. Everyone wants to be heard, seen, validated and appreciated. So learn to ask detailed questions until their perspective makes sense and you feel you can truly offer new collaborative ideas.
3. Recognize the beauty in differences
Cultivate a mindset of appreciation. Most people speak in order to defend their ideas and get the other person to convert to their way of thinking. If you actively create a mindset that everyone’s opinions and ideas are their own living genius then you always have the upper hand. You can go from living in compromises – lose/lose situations that ultimately create outer compliance and inner rebellion to creating true collaboration which brings more opportunities than ever before.
The formula for true collaboration is 1 + 1 = 3
Meaning, we take all my genius +1 and all your genius +1 and together we create something that on our own we could not =3.
And remember – the only place two people can ever be together is now.
So meet every moment looking for how you two can create life instead of compromising your gifts.
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